I updated our website today ALL BY MY BIG GIRL SELF and I didn’t even break anything.

I think I may run for president.

One of my favorite business-y life lessons I’m learning is: just make a plan. And then figure it out.

If I wait until I know everything I need to know to do something, I will likely never do anything.

Some other things I’ve learned recently:
-Hustling, building an empire, developing my “personal brand”, becoming an “online influencer” are completely not my thing(s).
-Warm, comfortable, open, accepting, inviting, detail-oriented hospitality is my jam.
-Hearing peoples’ stories and being able to meld their experiences with my experiences to make more sense of life and to become a more awesome-r human is what it’s all about.
-Sharing these stories with other awesome humans so we all realize we’re not alone is icing on the cake.
-If we only knew the stories of the people we encounter every day, we would be much more careful with what we whine about.
-Maggie’s 7-year-old Avra is my spirit animal. She says wise things like, “you know what the most important thing in life is, Mom? Death.” And she has the self-awareness to warn Granny, “I’m probably going to lose it at some point today.”
-People are hard. Relationships are hard. Caring for people well is really, REALLY hard.
-Most people (I’ve heard it’s 80%) do not like their jobs and I could not be more grateful to be a member of that 20% minority (Let’s fix this, people. We can figure it out together. Life is too short.)

Some things I’m working to learn:
-How to talk about my disdain for the beauty/anti-aging industry without sounding like an arrogant, condescending, self-righteous jerk. Any input appreciated (I obviously don’t hate the players, but MAN I hate the game).
(Also, when I start to rant, Smitty is there to say, “no, you can’t say that. No, you can’t say that either. What you COULD say is….”)
-Why we feel awkward talking about pain and sadness and divorce and fear but are totally good discussing Real Housewives of Whatever.
-How to use social media (as Milagro and as Ashley) when my goal (for Milagro and for Ashley) is to sidestep as much life BS as possible. (If you’re ever wondering where to go to find some real good piles of BS, may I suggest social media?)

I turn 40 in November, so I’m sure I will have EVERYTHING figured out by then, right?

What life lesson are you in the middle of learning?

By | 2017-05-11T13:21:54-06:00 April 28th, 2017|Uncategorized|2 Comments


  1. Jane Mobley May 11, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    You always teach me something about courage in your blogs. You are always shoveling the BS aside. This is a task as old as stories– tales across time remind us there is always more poo than anyone can keep up with. Remember Hercules and the Augean stables? An ancient story about BS (also sheep, goat, horse S* because S* comes from many sources). Does it help to know that fighting BS is a never-ending story? Yes, if one is Much Older than 40 and sees no great progress. I suspect the truth across time is this: it’s a fight that can’t be won except by one good person at a time one day at a time, the way you do it. Ever on!

  2. Art May 12, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    Nicely done!

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